I’m loaded. Not as in alcohol, or as in a gun, but as in questions.
I wish I had some end point to this post, some next step. The thoughts aren’t even complete. But I do want to get them down, get started on… something.
Past occurrences were necessary to arrive at where we are now, so if you’re happy with where you are, those events must have been ok, right?
I’ve been called a Catalyst for Awesome. Friends have gotten out of bad relationships based on frank discussion, friends have started on that long-dreamed-of project based on passionate discussion, but friends have also gone epic places in their lives because of when I abandoned them. I don’t want to abandon anyone again. Sometimes the catalyst has to change. /thread
I don’t have set boundaries. Constantly in flux to best deal with situations, there are certainly lines that won’t be crossed by anyone for any reason, but those lines are contextual and often more about those I care about than myself. It’s protected me from a lot of hurt, but it’s also unhealthy in the long run – both for me, and those I care about. I miss being a cyborg sometimes. It was certainly easier, though it lacked depth. So… how does one do that? Set boundaries, I mean. /thread
This kind of goes along with boundaries, but I need to know who I am outside of my communities. I have been existing for the communities I’m a part of. Again, not healthy. /thread
I don’t take the sort of time to process things that others seem to. Maybe it’s part of the “get over it” upbringing, maybe I’m actually processing that fast, maybe I’m not processing enough. But I end up seeing where I’m freaked out, why, and going back into the fray to face it head-on. I scream in the face of things. I call out the elephant in the room. With respect, mind you, and with love. /thread
Also need some sleep and a loooong motobike ride.
Hello, LJ. I think you’ll be good for me.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
I can teach you about boundaries if you teach me how to be a cyborg.
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents
re: boundaries, I’m sure you’re familiar with the phrase jack of all trades, master of none? I think that your statement Constantly in flux to best deal with situations sounds like a variant of that. Wanting to be everything to everybody necessarily means not being what you want for yourself. In terms of defining what it is you want for yourself (and how that impacts other people), I’ve found over the years that being as honest as possible – about your confusion, discomfort, like/dislike, whatever – while also being upfront about how it’s all a work in progress and you’re not trying to manipulate, is the easiest way to get definitions with others down. Also reminding myself that no matter how badly it might suck to tell someone something that might hurt them, it is INFINITELY BETTER than allowing a situation to spiral to the point where YOU’RE being hurt/upset because of what you’ve not said.
/two cents