intimacy

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Hello.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it is to be a friend. I’ve been called out recently on making people feel important, but then not treating them as such. This causes me a lot of confusion, so I’d really like some feedback.

1) I’m very logical. I state what sort of time I have for people, what I’m expecting (if anything), or if winging it seems like a better idea. I request feedback in the same way.
2) I compartmentalize. If I am spending time with you, I’m spending time with you. I will step out if I absolutely have to answer a text, or will do so around you if that’s something we’ve established as being ok. That means when I am not around you, I am doing this for other people, which means I will likely not respond to a text from you immediately.
3) I will always respond to emergencies. I will rarely respond to small talk. That means I have to be informed if it’s an emergency.
4) I do not have my own set of emotions, or at least not ones that I have had any sort of regular access to for a long time, if ever. I empathize extraordinarily well, but this requires me to be around someone. I used to think drinking brought out emotions in me, but I think it just makes me more of an empath.
5) I am busy. I set aside segments of time for people. I seriously did a pie chart the other day of how many hours I spend on which tasks, and showed it to people who thought they weren’t getting a lot of my time. 3 hours a week of hang-out is seriously 15% of my social time.

Basically, this boils down to me being very good at making people feel special. I’m very good at starting friendships, though some are arguing that I’m not good at maintaining them. Because making people feel special is bad? Apparently when you do that, they want to spend time with you, even when you have made it clear you don’t have time. Also, if you make someone other than a close friend feel special, it detracts from them? I don’t get it. So what do I do? Stop making people feel special? Because I’m not good at that.

Serious confusion going on here. Please do give me some advice. Comments are allowed to be anonymous, and are screened. Please do say what you think. If you want it to be responded to and thus publicized, please say as such in comment.

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  1. Do you feel like it’s your responsibility to make other people feel special? Do these people make YOU feel special.
    I ask this, because I USED to be like this – “oh it’s so & so’s bday…I guess I better go to their party, even though I’m only really an acquaintance. It’s their bday & they should feel special on their bday, so I have to go”. But really…WHY should that be up to me? They should have close friends that would want to spend their bday with them. It’s not my job to make people feel special—UNLESS it’s people who are my really close friends.

    I don’t know…to me, I think it’s a give & take thing. If someone is demanding something from you, are they equally giving you that thing back? AND is it something you even want from them?

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  2. It’s hard to answer this because I know I’m not close to you, but perhaps that can provide a different insight from those who have the above qualms or feelings?

    First, I want to say, I don’t think that any of what you’re doing is wrong– but it seems very different than how most people have friendships (or maybe it’s just very different from the friendships *I’ve* had).

    In many ways, I think the compartmentalization is both good & bad– it’s good because how many of us can really focus on the person we are with when we’re with them, without being distracted by texts, phone calls, etc.? Even when I’m with someone I am intimate/close with, sometimes I do want them to take that break from the world so it’s just us. On the other hand, I can see how it’d make people feel confused.

    It’s very hard for me to understand and relate to, because I think you and I are just very different people. While I can be really logical, I’m VERY emotional. I don’t make friends as easily as you (I admire that you do it very much), but I also feel when I’m REALLY friends with someone, I’m very dedicated to them. (I think it’s just the Cancerian in me, whether you believe in that astro-such or not.)

    I don’t think it’s only you who is bad at maintaining friendships. For all the technology we have, in many ways the sense of community is lost. I can’t tell you the number of people I’m “friends” with, but who I feel like I’ve lost a lot of their friendship.

    It’s good to make people feel special, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about that. More people should make an effort to make others feel special, because everyone IS special.

    I’m not sure if this helps at all– it’s a bit of a brain fart 10 minutes before being let out of work..

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  3. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

      Reply ↓

    • Thank you.

      It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

      This is definitely something which was discussed in the chats which prompted this post. I’m very explicit in what I can offer, but it seems my body language indicates otherwise. Whereas most of the time, I just figure it’s up to the person to sort out their desires with my stated abilities, the people in question are some that I care quite deeply about.

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  4. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  5. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  6. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  7. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  8. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  9. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  10. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  11. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  12. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  13. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  14. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  15. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

    Reply ↓

  16. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

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  17. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  18. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  19. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  20. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  21. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  22. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  23. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  24. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  25. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  26. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  27. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  28. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  29. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  30. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  31. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  32. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  33. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  34. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  35. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  36. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  37. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  38. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  39. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  40. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  41. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  42. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  43. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  44. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  45. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  46. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  47. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  48. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  49. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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  50. Well, keeping in mind this is speculation, and based entirely on the few facts you’ve presented, it seems like you’re having trouble with the fact that people tend to characterize their relationships.

    Most people don’t view relationships as fully constructed things that only have the features they agree or communicate about, or have a more conservative set of default behaviors. They view relationships as existing in classes, where behaviors or features imply membership in that class, and thus can be expected to have all the characteristics of that class of relationship.

    To be extreme, if someone were to go on a date, and engage in extremely intimate behavior, professing love and affection and undying devotion, and then to never speak to that person again, you can expect the abandoned person to be upset, even if no continuing relationship was ever discussed or agreed upon, because we tend to view that sort of behavior as belonging to a class of relationship that implies long association, and continuing behaviors.

    Most people I’ve known tend to model their relationships with people on a few different types of friends, family and associates they’ve had, usually in their child or young adulthood, who then become the archetype of the kinds of behaviors they expect in that class of friend.

    It sounds like you tend to interact with people in an intensity or in ways that, to them, imply you are a Class A-5 associate, which, for them, implies many other features of friendship/association, but to you has other features. So to them your behavior can seem disappointing, even deceptive, whereas to you, they are presuming upon your association by expecting too much, or the wrong thing.

    These kinds of mismatches are quite common, actually, particularly in new social strata. On LiveJournal, for example, people can build up very complex types of relationships, sharing incredibly intimate and complex details and trusting each other, while maintaining that the person has no right to know where you live, or could be expected to loan you five dollars for lunch, things a bland association at an impersonal workplace might allow. Understandably, people have differing intuitive notions of this, which can cause great pain.

    Reply or publicize if interesting to you.

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