Hello.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it is to be a friend. I’ve been called out recently on making people feel important, but then not treating them as such. This causes me a lot of confusion, so I’d really like some feedback.
1) I’m very logical. I state what sort of time I have for people, what I’m expecting (if anything), or if winging it seems like a better idea. I request feedback in the same way.
2) I compartmentalize. If I am spending time with you, I’m spending time with you. I will step out if I absolutely have to answer a text, or will do so around you if that’s something we’ve established as being ok. That means when I am not around you, I am doing this for other people, which means I will likely not respond to a text from you immediately.
3) I will always respond to emergencies. I will rarely respond to small talk. That means I have to be informed if it’s an emergency.
4) I do not have my own set of emotions, or at least not ones that I have had any sort of regular access to for a long time, if ever. I empathize extraordinarily well, but this requires me to be around someone. I used to think drinking brought out emotions in me, but I think it just makes me more of an empath.
5) I am busy. I set aside segments of time for people. I seriously did a pie chart the other day of how many hours I spend on which tasks, and showed it to people who thought they weren’t getting a lot of my time. 3 hours a week of hang-out is seriously 15% of my social time.
Basically, this boils down to me being very good at making people feel special. I’m very good at starting friendships, though some are arguing that I’m not good at maintaining them. Because making people feel special is bad? Apparently when you do that, they want to spend time with you, even when you have made it clear you don’t have time. Also, if you make someone other than a close friend feel special, it detracts from them? I don’t get it. So what do I do? Stop making people feel special? Because I’m not good at that.
Serious confusion going on here. Please do give me some advice. Comments are allowed to be anonymous, and are screened. Please do say what you think. If you want it to be responded to and thus publicized, please say as such in comment.
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
(feel free to unscreen if you want to respond)
I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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I personally appreciate the kind of friendship you give. I understand how busy you get; and how many different ways your free time is split, especially because you *are* so good at making people feel appreciated/special/warmandfuzzy. That and you have a huge list of things you find fun and interesting and you (unlike many people) actually take time for those fun and interesting things. I do think that your style of relating is unusual and as such people expect a certain set of ‘normal’ things that they don’t get from you. I don’t feel like that’s a failing on your part – I think that people who pressure you to relate to them only in the way they expect are failing to appreciate you as the fascinatingly unusual person that you are. This is not to say that they are bad people, or even bad friends. They are just having a bit of a perception fail.
I wouldn’t want you to change. I get to see you only rarely, mostly due to distance but also somewhat due to time, and I can’t tell you how much I enjoy the time I do spend with you because you are so present to the moment. The converse of that is what you mentioned about not returning texts and such right away. People who want your attention both when you are with them and when you are with other people have unrealistic expectations. And the thing about other peoples expectations is that you are not required to fulfill them, especially when they aren’t realistic.
Not everyone will be able to see things from your perspective, and those that can’t will always be unsatisfied with how much of you they get. But that isn’t something you need to take on as long as you and those few people you are closest to are happy with whatever balance you’ve struck. If those few are the ones that are unhappy you may have to make a few adjustments in order to keep those relationships healthy. Otherwise, I’d say just keep being you and those who can’t understand or accept that will eventually (sadly) fall away.
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