Hello.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it is to be a friend. I’ve been called out recently on making people feel important, but then not treating them as such. This causes me a lot of confusion, so I’d really like some feedback.
1) I’m very logical. I state what sort of time I have for people, what I’m expecting (if anything), or if winging it seems like a better idea. I request feedback in the same way.
2) I compartmentalize. If I am spending time with you, I’m spending time with you. I will step out if I absolutely have to answer a text, or will do so around you if that’s something we’ve established as being ok. That means when I am not around you, I am doing this for other people, which means I will likely not respond to a text from you immediately.
3) I will always respond to emergencies. I will rarely respond to small talk. That means I have to be informed if it’s an emergency.
4) I do not have my own set of emotions, or at least not ones that I have had any sort of regular access to for a long time, if ever. I empathize extraordinarily well, but this requires me to be around someone. I used to think drinking brought out emotions in me, but I think it just makes me more of an empath.
5) I am busy. I set aside segments of time for people. I seriously did a pie chart the other day of how many hours I spend on which tasks, and showed it to people who thought they weren’t getting a lot of my time. 3 hours a week of hang-out is seriously 15% of my social time.
Basically, this boils down to me being very good at making people feel special. I’m very good at starting friendships, though some are arguing that I’m not good at maintaining them. Because making people feel special is bad? Apparently when you do that, they want to spend time with you, even when you have made it clear you don’t have time. Also, if you make someone other than a close friend feel special, it detracts from them? I don’t get it. So what do I do? Stop making people feel special? Because I’m not good at that.
Serious confusion going on here. Please do give me some advice. Comments are allowed to be anonymous, and are screened. Please do say what you think. If you want it to be responded to and thus publicized, please say as such in comment.
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I rely on a variety of social queues to try to infer what someone thinks about me. These include:
* facial expression
* displayed levels of enthusiasm
* levels of casual physical contact
I use these to try to gauge what level of reciprocal attention is appropriate and would be appreciated, among other things.
I have been very confused by what I perceive to be a fairly wide gulf between the cues I thought I was receiving and the subsequent types of interaction we’ve experienced. For the most part in person I’ve perceived our interactions as quite friendly and fairly flirtatious. However, this seems not to translate to other contexts such as invitations to social events or electronic interactions. My perception of our interactions other than in person is that they are fairly cold, impersonal, and that I am perhaps sometimes a useful means to the end of interacting with one of my partners.
It’s actually been quite helpful to me to read this. I’m pretty socially odd in my own ways, and don’t “need” people to behave according to the patterns I’m used to. However, without extra information (much of which I now have, thank you), the incongruity is moderately distressing, enough so that I would probably have attempted to avoid interaction with you where possible. I no longer consider that something I feel I need to do.
To be clear, it was because of my own social anxiety trip. I have expectations as a result of people’s behavior, but it’s in the sense of predictions, not believing myself to be entitled to my expectations. I experience what may be abnormally high levels of stress when I’m unable to model peoples’ behavior.
So, none of that is really advice. It’s just my own narrative about my own observations and hangups. Maybe there’s something in there you can find useful anyway?
You may un-screen this comment and reply. I’m willing to de-anonymize via a private channel.
5915b517dcd975b4030a833c1a709a2e72de968e
I’m coo’. I love that you are clear with how busy you are and are understanding that I am busy too. It’s nice to know that you want to spend time with me but it’s even better to know that it’s ok if we don’t see each other all that often to maintain the “hey, you are really cool and I am glad I know you” vibe.
Truly, there are only so many hours in the day and only so many people you can be very close to because of that.
As someone who has been in similar situations and also shares an equally diverse social network that spreads me as thin I find this to be a well thought out and clearly delivered boiler plate.
And I can attest that you are good for the hang (e-bay rating A++ would hang with again) and that sometimes people just need to chill out realize they’re going to get better time with someone if they’re not rushed or coerced into it. To quote those poets from Detroit, D12, these people need to “Woh Woh slow your roll”.
I relate to this! Oh for the good old days when social life was more structured and compartmentalized. We live with new confusions. The expectation of a fluid, free-form social life isn’t always reasonable. Maintaining even a small circle of friends is a full time job. Maybe an ever-widening social circle isn’t the way to go for you, and you should just be more selective about the relationships you cultivate? Making new friends is wonderful, but there are only so many hours in the day. Making new friends is a great pleasure in its own right of course, but a serial model of friendship isn’t terribly health.
I have certainly felt special to you, though I think our interactions are necessarily different since I’m so ephemeral and only there once every two months or so. Given that I am equally ephemeral for most people, that changes the social interaction… they know I won’t be there next week, so they are slightly inclined to forgive if I don’t have time for them, and significantly inclined to twist their schedules to mine due to shortage of available interaction. I try to be grateful for that effort.
It has been my experience that emotion and body language override logic and explicit statements, for most people. This has caused no end of difficulty in human interaction.
Yes, when you make people feel special, they want to spend time with you even when you don’t have it. They may also take offense at you not having it, as unfair as that is.
(Feel free to publicize.)
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
I’m working on it! [grin]
I’m working on it! [grin]
I’m working on it! [grin]
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
You have made me feel special as well. Hope we can do the femme jam thing (and ethiopian) the next time you’re in town. I like the tradition we’re building. You really should just move back.
I have certainly felt special to you, though I think our interactions are necessarily different since I’m so ephemeral and only there once every two months or so. Given that I am equally ephemeral for most people, that changes the social interaction… they know I won’t be there next week, so they are slightly inclined to forgive if I don’t have time for them, and significantly inclined to twist their schedules to mine due to shortage of available interaction. I try to be grateful for that effort.
It has been my experience that emotion and body language override logic and explicit statements, for most people. This has caused no end of difficulty in human interaction.
Yes, when you make people feel special, they want to spend time with you even when you don’t have it. They may also take offense at you not having it, as unfair as that is.
(Feel free to publicize.)