How I think about retrospectives

I believe in self-improving systems, and retrospectives are a core way of reflecting and then changing behavior accordingly. There’s a lot out there on what a retrospective is, formats to use, and other techniques, so I’ll just highlight my facilitation thoughts on them here. This is influenced by the CAST handbook and my own facilitation background.

Must be blame-free / a psychologically safe space

People will not open up and be actually present and interrogative if they don’t feel safe. It is your responsibility when setting up, facilitating, and debriefing to make sure the system is what is being critiqued, not the humans within it. The humans made the best possible choice they could given the circumstances they were in, so let’s change the circumstances in the future. Make this explicit early and often. As Charity says on the sticker on my megaphone, “communicate positive intent.”

A picture of a megaphone focused on a sticker in Lisa Frank obnoxiously bright styling, "communicate positive intent." Additional stickers that are visible are the Priceless Baroot, the edge of a pleading taco emoji, and one that seems to ready "...necessarily a crime."

Must be scoped well

If people don’t know what they’re talking about, they won’t talk about the same thing, and getting to concrete outcomes will become nearly impossible. Focus on a specific project, timeline, or outcome. Communicate this early and often.

Should encourage creative thinking

Whatever format you pick should be mildly novel (not so novel that it disrupts how people approach things, but novel enough to edge them out of their comfort zone). Use a different prompt set or a different tool, but rarely both at the same time. Ask more of people to engage and challenge them into someplace new.

Needs to lead to concrete, actionable tweaks

If you don’t arrive at experiments that will change how you’re behaving, you have wasted everyone’s time. I like to set aside about 1/4 of the time of the retro to listing, refining, and then selecting one or two these experiments. I ask the following questions:

  • What will change if we take this action?
  • What would prevent us from making the change?
  • How will we know if we’re successful or not?
  • When should we check back?
  • What is our next step, and who is responsible for it?

I only pick up 1-3 concrete steps to take after each retro. I track them just like any project, and I report back on them before the next retro to show that the time and vulnerability is worth it.

One goal should be building trust with the team

A core part of the system is team trust, and in improving the system, we should be focused on building that part of it. By being blame free, enacting suggestions, and pushing people to engage more, we build that trust. If something about the retro process is eroding trust, pause and reassess your approach.

Historical income

So I found some of my old tax documents and figured I’d map what the income trajectory has been like for me since I started working at 16. I often held 2-3 jobs at a time before moving into a nonprofit career, before deciding I was tired of the constant stress of paying rent and moved to the private sector.

Chart of income over time, boxed out for what was going on in life at certain points. Boiled-down summary follows in blog post.


Moving to full time work with an undergrad degree 3-4x’d my income.
Moving from jobs to a career tripled it.
Moving to the private sector doubled that again.
Leveling up to senior increased by about 50%.

The job hunt

So I’ve just signed to start in mid-December as the manager of the AppSec team at a well-known platform. I’m REALLY excited for this for many reasons I’ll get into after I’ve actually started and it feels real. I’m really excited to be able to talk about this part of my life again.

I’ll do a separate post about how I structured my consulting because that’s it own fun setup, but I wanted to take a moment here to talk about how grueling the job hunt is right now and to offer some scaffolding, because being intentional about things is how I stay sane when in a chaotic situation.

This is long because I have a lot to say on keeping track, experiments in approach, and what actually worked this time.

Resources mentioned in here:

  1. Job hunt tracking spreadsheet
  2. Sankey HTML file and associated page/image
  3. Financial burn-down spreadsheet
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